When Do Emotions Turn Into Illness?
Emotions that are overwhelming to the mind come to the body surface as illness.
What somatization means
We have all had situations in our lives when we were too stressed and at one point our stomach or head started to ache from so much stress.
Some people, when they are very stressed, have an irritated skin or they even have muscle pain.
This is due to the emotions that we generically call „stress”.
We call somatization a stress that is downloaded in the organs, at the cellular level.
So somatization means to feel the emotions in the body with discomfort or pain, without necessarily being a disease.
But not every time we have an emotion we somatize/manifest it physically!
We can feel emotions on a certain scale of intensity, they can be lighter emotions, stronger emotions or even emotional shocks.
Emotions that do not have intensity, can be easily ventilated, we can manage them.
We can feel the differences in emotional intensity only inside us.
Other people may have an idea of what an event means to you, but no one can really know what is in the depths of your soul.
That is why healing belongs to you, because it is your responsibility to release the captive emotions, even if you do it alone or with specialized psychological or therapeutic help.
Take for example a simple event: when you cross the street.
If you have had a car accident in your life, you will cross the street looking 2-3 times left and right, with great caution, maybe even with anxiety and worry.
Or you can see some people crossing the zebra without even looking to see if a car is coming.
Obviously the emotions are different in the two situations, but also the thoughts that generate the actions are different.
That is, we have different programs that guide our actions, it is not by chance that we behave in a certain way, which is observed in the choices we make in life.
Our thoughts, emotions and actions come as a result of life experiences!
Psychological automatisms become bio-logical programs
In order to maintain mental and physical stability, to have coherence in life and to be able to survive, thoughts are automated. The reaction to events is generally automated, that is, it is done through unconscious psychic mechanisms, the reactions are not from the conscious area.
Let’s think of something simple: when you are little you learn experientially that if you put your hand in the fire you burn and it stings. Since then, you avoid putting your hand in the fire.
Automation has been created!
The same happens in the case of psychic events.
For example, if you have an uncle or grandfather who constantly offends you, speaks badly to you or maybe even hits you sometimes, you automatically avoid him.
And then we ask ourselves: if you have such a life situation, when do you start somatizing it?
In what organ are painful emotions discharged, where in the body do we find an emotional blockage?
This is where bio-logic or biological thinking comes into play.
To know where emotions are stored in the body, we need to observe the usefulness of the affected organ.
Let’s say that the grandfather in question throws some ugly words in your face.
He tells you that you are stupid, that you are not resourceful and capable like your mother, and when he is drunk he comes and kisses you on the cheek, smelling of alcohol.
Biological programs can be observed through emotional conflicts
What do you feel? A combination of emotions and feelings, because if it were a single emotion, it would be too simple.
This very combination of emotions is called emotional conflict!
What emotional conflict do you have if your grandfather treats you like that?
You feel terrible, worthless, always compared to your mother, against which you lose all the time in your grandfather’s eyes.
When you feel devalued by someone, can you feel loved by that person? Most people answer No to this question.
Like the parent who talks to one of the 5-6 children he has and instead of telling him that he loves him as he is, he tells him that he loves all his children, puts him in the plural.
The child feeling he is just one of the crowd, without feeling seen or loved by the parent.
If your parents leave you with your grandfather on summer vacation, how do you feel when you have to go to him?
How much do you like to go there?
Mother says: „leave him dear, don’t pay attention to him, that’s how he is!”
But inside you it’s like going to watch a horror movie with yourself, because you know what’s already waiting for you.
Grandpa is a hardworking man, during the day he does everything possible around the house.
In the evening, he has his habits too, he likes to drink a glass of strong alcohol after dinner.
Then all his demons seem to grip him even harder.
As his house has only 2 rooms, and one of them is also a kitchen, you have nowhere to run, you have nowhere to hide.
You count the days until you go home.
But you don’t escape.
He offends you, he reminds you how unskilled you were today when you helped him.
He knows that he had better do it alone (as if you had volunteered).
After one hour he realizes that he went too far and he would like to apologize.
Grandpa does it his way: he kisses you on the cheek.
He is not aware that his lips are wet with saliva and alcohol.
What do you feel in this moment? Disgust, repulsion, abhorrence, anger.
This is like an attack on your face.
You turn and wipe your cheek, but no matter how much you wipe, his disgusting kiss seems to be still there, as if it has entered your skin, it’s like an attack on you, on your cheeks.
For the moment you do not suffer anything physical, you do not somatize, although your emotions are strong.
At most you are red of rage in the cheeks, he annoys you and your mother annoys you too because she brought you here again. You go to bed with all these emotional states.
You are in full emotional conflict.
You have no peace and tranquility in your soul!
Time passes and you leave. Once you get home, you breathe relieved that you escaped, as if you were in an abuse camp and then fell asleep.
In the morning when you wake up, you notice that your cheeks are red and a big fungus with pimples appeared on your cheeks, especially on the right side.
As it does not pass, but becomes more and more obvious, after a few days, your mother takes you to the doctor.
The diagnosis is acneiform dermatitis.
You are prescribed 2 types of ointments. You are given a theory about morning hygiene, about evening hygiene.
But no one asks you what you suffered before the problem appeared, before the diagnosis.
Is it fair to call it somatization? Yes, but it’s more than that.
We usually speak of somatization when something happens almost immediately.
Your boss scolds you at work that you don’t do your job well and by the time you get home your head hurts.
You are very stressed that you have to take an important exam and maybe you have diarrhea.
You categorically refuse a situation or a person, you revolt against it, you would like to take it out of you symbolically, but you can’t say anything, you can’t do anything against it, because you are a very nice and kind person, and then you feel like throwing up.
Decipher the message of the disease
If you verbalize, if you say how you feel about the situation that bothers you, you shouldn’t somatize, because the energy of that conflict, of those emotions, the tension of those thoughts would go outside and not inside you.
If you keep all the conflicting tension inside you and you don’t express your dissatisfaction, it accumulates and implodes at some point, touching a certain organ, a specific area of the body.
This is where bio-logical thinking comes into play, which is why we can call it Psychobiology: because the way a conflict is discharged in the body is based on logical principles that take into account the functionality of the conflict discharge area.
The psychological conflict becomes a biological one!
And the fact that the conflict returns, even though you thought it was closed, is a psychobiological programming.
Emotional conflict does not unload by chance, at the will of fate, in the body, but has a bio-logical meaning.
There is a correlation between the psyche, the brain and the organ.
The brain is very well divided into specific functions.
Each area of the brain corresponds to an organ. But also the brain is in correspondence with the psyche.
When an event happens, depending on your perception of that event, on how you integrate it into your psyche, it is taken over by a certain part of the brain in correspondence with the organ that responds to that type of drama or suffering.
It is natural that if you are constantly throwing negative emotions in the body, at some point the body will show you this through an illness.
Illness is like a message you receive from your body that it’s time to stop suffering from what happened in the past.
Or take action for something you need to change in your present.
It is not a punishment, but a revelation of what you have experienced.
I was talking about the conflict with your grandfather that causes you repulsion and disgust.
It’s like a form of separation from him when he kisses you, when he offends you, when he humiliates you.
More than that, it’s like you want to have a shield there, not to be touched.
Which organ took over the emotional conflict?
The skin in this case.
Why the skin on the cheeks and not the skin on the hand or on the sole?
Because the attack was felt on the cheeks.
Why stronger on the right and not on the left?
Because at the table, Grandpa was always to your right.
As if that right cheek area was more exposed to ugly words, attacks, insults than the left side.
It has a bio-logic!
All the diseases we have happen because we don’t make the connection between the drama we lived through and the disease we have.
Sometimes it is difficult to remember because the suffering behind the disease was very strong.
When something extremely traumatic happens to us, our brain has the capacity for psychological self-protection.
All that memory is discharged into the subconscious, the brain being as if numb to that suffering.
For example, if you have been the victim of a rape or witness to a crime, events with a particularly significant psychological impact.
But if it’s something painful, things we often hear about in our daily lives?
For example, you find out that your wife is cheating on you or you have a partner who suddenly beats or insults you at the first quarrel?
It’s a brutal emotional shock, and if you’re not used to managing your emotions in a healthy way, what do you do with all your pain?
You download it into your subconscious!
Once discharged into the subconscious, are those emotions still in the conscious area of the psyche?
Think about the story with grandpa.
Summer is over. Your eczema hardly passed away, although you were left with some spots and maybe some small holes in the skin.
But you survived; you don’t even want to think about what it was like.
School starts and classmates talk about summer adventures at their grandparents, some even have funny and happy stories about their vacation in the countryside.
But when you think of your grandfather, you shiver, a slight feeling of disgust comes to you.
You don’t want to talk about it.
Because in your mind it’s not clear if your grandfather was right when he said how incompetent you are with the hay. That you don’t know how to grind grain for animals.
Then the devaluation that you don’t have that much strength to carry 2 buckets of water at once. Because you don’t have well developed muscles.
The pen is much lighter than a bucket of water.
But your grandfather doesn’t know that, so he got annoyed that you wasted your time making several trips to the fountain.
As a result, you kind of made your opinion about yourself as an incapable person, who doesn’t know how to do anything.
Maybe your grandfather was even right to tell you so many things.
We, humans, devalue ourselves from all sorts of things, some even useless.
But we do it constantly, we criticize, we judge and we devalue ourselves.
Your mother doesn’t pay attention to you, she doesn’t listen to you when you want to tell her something about her father.
The truth is that she is tired of him too and that’s why she doesn’t want to hear anything of what he does.
She has no other choice but to leave you there on vacation, because she has nothing to do with you at home.
You are ashamed to tell your colleagues what happened.
Of course, because if mom and dad don’t listen to you and don’t believe in you, if they don’t trust what you say, how can you have self-esteem?
How to develop your self-confidence?
Where do you get the courage to say what you think and feel?
These are acquired from the interaction with the parents.
Self-esteem is the gift of parents for their children.
So, if you don’t have a developed self-esteem, you end up saying like your mother: „leave him, that’s how he is.”
You end up tolerating behaviors and gestures that you would not accept if you had developed self-esteem.
Even if you fake indifference, the emotional conflict is not over.
Inside you, there is an emotional blockage, the conflict is not extinguished.
Next summer you suffer the same thing and so on until you get to high school, when you can stay home alone.
You are also happy that you can explore the surroundings of your living area, without an adult always there.
Your grandfather died that year and mother brought some things from the countryside, after selling the house.
But, surprise: that summer, in the same period as when you were at your grandfather’s last year, a beautiful dermatitis appears!
You go to the doctor again and this time it is allergic dermatitis.
You do your allergy tests and it turns out that you are allergic to feathers and dust.
Because grandfather had been living alone since he was widowed, he barely could take care of the field and the animals.
He didn’t have time to clean the house, nor was it a priority for him.
He had the duvet and pillows from the wedding, dowries received from parents, but at least since grandmother died, they have not been washed.
Luckily it was summer and you could keep the windows open.
So, there was always an atmosphere of dust and dirt in grandfather’s house.
At night when you slept in the goose feather bedding, you wanted to fly home to your mother.
And now those sheets are in your bed at home.
As if grandfather’s pillow and duvet subconsciously remind you of your feelings there.
Your body remembered, because that’s where the cellular memories are stored, in the area of the body where the conflict was discharged.
In psychosomatics and psychobiology we say that emotions are transferred to the subconscious, and the subconscious is the body.
Because behind an illness we always find an emotional conflict, related to that area of the body.
The solution to healing through emotional release
How do you heal repressed emotions in the body?
Do you want healing and health?
Alternative medicine based on conflict resolution offers you a solution to emotional healing through awareness.
If you go on the path of personal development, you will have the chance to verbalize, to take out of your cells the great dramas in your life.
To do personal development you need a lot of courage to open up and observe the sufferings of the past, to heal them.
If you develop a disease, an allergy, a tick, or a recurring behavior, it’s time to start asking yourself questions.
Sometimes people are not clear even in their minds.
It is not enough to say that you have an allergy, describe it, say where it is, how it looks, how it manifests, since when it appeared. If you say „I have an allergy on my face” it’s still not enough.
Where on the face? On the chin, on the cheeks, on the forehead? On the right, on the left?
Because in this way we can ask clear and targeted questions:
What is the drama that happened to you, related to the right cheek?
As you have noticed with the skin, every organ and area of the body takes on certain specific emotional conflicts.
If you ask the right question, then your brain makes the connection with the drama behind your diagnosis.
And that memory you are not at peace with, jumps out of your subconscious like popcorn, giving you the opportunity to begin a healing process.